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Our Trainers

Peter Flowerdew


Peter Flowerdew PhD
: Certified Transactional Analyst with psychotherapy speciality, CTA(P); UKATA Registered Provisional Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst PTSTA(P);UKCP Registered Psychotherapist (Transactional Analysis).BACP Senior Accredited Member.

Director, Principal Trainer and UKATA Representative for Contact Point (see page21).Peter has worked part time and full time as a counsellor and psychotherapist for 19 years. For the past thirteen years he has been the executive director of Help! Counselling, a registered charity providing counselling and psychotherapy to young people aged 9 to 25. In this capacity he is assisted by Pat Flowerdew, twenty five counsellors and four supervisors. For the past ten years he has run his own private psychotherapy practice full-time. He also provides one-to-one and group supervision. He served on the council of UKATA for two years and was the main contributor in producing a new constitution for the organisation.

Peter’s Thoughts on Therapy

Most people look for counselling or therapy because they are experiencing some crisis. There is an habitual feeling, maybe anxiety or anger; or intrusive thoughts, or distrust or confusion; or particular behaviours, maybe around alcohol or drug use or ways of behaving towards others, that no longer fit with how this person wants, or maybe needs, to be. Others feel that their choices, for example, of partner or of work, are not working out as they want, but they are unsure of how to respond. Some people reading this may be only too painfully aware of trauma that they have experienced.

Some may be survivors of abuse. Most of my clients have had troubled upbringings and are struggling to find independence and an adult identity and often find that breaking old patterns is difficult.

Others can point to no single event that allows them to understand their discomfort. They have often experienced a kind of cumulative trauma caused by an emotional absence, and maybe excessive criticism or harshness in the carer's parenting style.

People who have autistic problems have to deal with historic and ongoing cumulative trauma, trying to create relationship in a world they do not undertand and that does not underatand them. The autistic elements and and the psychotherapeutic elements are interwoven. I can provide a therapeutic and empowering relationship to support the development of a richer life experience.

All of these, and more, can be worked though and resolved in therapy, so that the way life has worked for you up to now does not have to be the way it continues and the story written so far does not mean that the ending is fixed.

Before

Clients come to me explaining their problems with words like:

Sad, Scared, Angry, Confused, Indecisive, Anxious, Inhibited, Desperate, Depressed, Empty, Wounded, Lost, Purposeless, Lonely, Overwhelmed, Isolated, Obsessed, Failed, Trapped

After

Clients completing use words like:

Comfortable, Content, Pleased, Happy, Aware, Alive, Successful, Satisfied, Close, Spontanious, Playful, Fun, Affectionate, Empowered, Stong, Confident, Excited, Valued, Loved.

Most clients experience internal emotional discomfort and have some difficulty functioning in some aspect of their life. For some people these difficulties are severe enough for them to warrant a mental health diagnosis. I work with these clients too, with the awareness and support of their GP and other health workers.